The Times They Are A Changin'

I've had some major life changes happen in the last month, and it has prompted me to focus on taking care of myself. Because this blog is truly about my marriage, I have decided to start a new blog that is only about me. I hope this doesn't sound narcissistic or self-centered. The truth is that I haven't taken care of myself in A LONG TIME.

So, for now, I will not be blogging here! You will be able to find my blog here.

If you are one of my La Vida Ledesma followers, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE come follow me!

Five Years!

Five years ago, today, I met my husband. It was an instant connection, eventhough I love to tell the hilarious story about his fear to ask me on a real date. I'll save that for another time...

That first year of dating, was spent mostly long distance, which is interesting because here we are in that same situation once again. I had only been dating him a short period when he had a job offer to return to Beaufort, SC. There was no way I was going to hold him back from what he had already expressed as his "dream job". So, nine months came and went... We only got to see each other once during that time which is when that picture was taken.

It was hard. We barely knew each other. We talked for hours and hours and we broke up. Correction, I broke up with him. Several times. I was scared and feeling like what was I doing, falling in love with someone who was so far away. There was no indication he would come back. But he did. Our first time to see each other was exactly one year after we met.

Once we were back in the same town, everything seemed to fast forward. We were so in love. Living together by the end of September... Engaged by the first of November... and then married a year later.

We've had our ups and downs during marriage, but as we close in on our 3rd Anniversary, I'd like to report that we are closer, more in love, and more solid than we even realized were possible. I'd venture to say that neither one of us knew what unconditional love was when we married, but the last year helped us learn that lesson. I know that my entire view of marriage has changed and I am so much more grateful for what I have.

At one point, I didn't think we would make it, but now I know we will.

We have gotten a lot of flack for our most recent decision. I've been honestly shocked by the judgment that has come our way. I will not understand why some think it is their place to determine the validity of our choices, but I really don't need to understand it. I really don't need to even worry about it. I am reminded of the love dare... we are our own unit and must make the choices that are best for us- disregarding the influence of others outside of our marriage. It simply isn't anyone else's business.

So, I'm not going to be sad that this occasion will be spent alone. In two weeks, I will be meeting my husband in Denver, Colorado! I bought my tickets and reserved a hotel room today! I haven't been further West than Ruidoso, NM or that far North before! I am stoked! Check out our funky hotel!

Since we will be staying downtown, we will be right smack dab in the middle of the Taste of Colorado festival. We will also be visiting the Denver Art Museum. ALL FOR FREE! I can't wait!

Random Tuesday- A Dedication...

...to me, from you. I finally got the message, but it took a while. I get it now. I know that I will forget it later, but you'll be there to remind me. Thank you.

Let it Be Me
by Ray LaMontagne

There may come a time,
a time in everyone's life
where nothing seems to go your way
where nothing seems to turn out right

There may come a time,
you just cant seem to find your way
for every door you walk in to,
seems like they get slammed in your face

That's when you need someone,
someone that you can call
and when all your faith is gone
feels like you can't go on

let it be me
let it be me
if its a friend that you need
let it be me
let it be me

Feels like your always coming on home
pockets full of nothin and you got no cash
no matter where you turn you aint got no place to stand
reach out for something and they slap your hand

Now I remember all to well
just how it feels to be all alone
you feel like you'd give anything
for just a little place you can call your own

Thats when you need someone,
someone that you can call
and when all your faith is gone
feels like you cant go on

let it be me
let it be me
if its a friend you need
let it be me
let it be me

Finally talking

Well, this week has been another opportunity for me to show those true blue colors of mine. It's been one of those really introverted weeks. I always think a LOT before I talk (well not always, but I always regret when I don't). I haven't even been sure of what I was thinking so hard on. It's hard to describe, but I had an unexplained emotion and just had to ponder on it for a bit and in the mean time I just didn't have it in me to "talk".

I am past it now and gonna use this blog to catch up a bit!



First and foremost, I want to express my gratitude for this girl right here. My baby sister, Sienna, just isn't a baby anymore. In fact, she is 15 years old today. She is officially older than I was when she was born. I remember rocking you to sleep. You loved for me to sing to you. She is beautiful (inside and out), intelligent, caring, and wise beyond her years. She's everything I wish I could have been at her age, and maybe I was a little bit. I am so proud of her. I pray that she will see these things within herself and continues to hope for a brighter future. I love you, Sienna! Happy Birthday!

Switching gears... Many of you may have read on Facebook that my husband leaves tomorrow morning for Wyoming. The economy has really hit his line of work hard and the jobs are few and far between. He was going to start school in the Fall, but he wasn't comfortable with our "buffer". I can support his decision for a number of reasons-

1. He is simply unhappy when he isn't working. His self-worth (like many men) comes largely from his ability to provide for us.
2. This job is going to pay well and we've been able to reduce our budget, so this will be an opportunity for us to sack away a significant chunk of change to pay for college, debts, etc.
3. He is my husband and I promised to support him.

Am I happy about it? No. I'm sad and I'm worried, but I have faith. I may not know what this year is going to bring. I am surely going to miss him like crazy. It's going to be hard, but not impossible. What is right usually doesn't feel good right now, but has the best results in the long run!

And switching gears on more time- I HAVE A CONTEST WINNER TO ANNOUNCE!

Since there were only two comments, I am just going to flip a coin. Heads is Leslie and tails is Cayce............. tails it is! Cayce you are the winner of the Financial Peace University Kit! I will message you privately to get your address!

Just one more update- I am going to post a blog this weekend on the progress of my organization mission! I have pictures and lots of details, so stay tuned!

Freedom Friday- Financial Peace Giveaway!

* This is going to be a giveaway blog, so be sure to post a comment! I will be using a random number generator to pick the winner! *

I know, I know- I'm supposed to be sharing my progress on clearing out the dining room today... BUT it's not quite done and I need to find a new home for our extra Financial Peace University kit- so I'm killing two birds with one stone!

Back in 2003, I started listening to the Dave Ramsey Show everyday at work. At the time, I was in a BIG financial mess. I took my first FPU class in early 2005 when Havie and were still dating. I was determined to fix my mess before we potentially got married. I got a 2nd job selling fine Jewelry at Foley's evenings and weekends. My mess was just too big to make an impact. Or so I thought at the time.

When we got engaged, I found out pretty quickly that Havie had his own mess. It wasn't as big as mine and it was totally different. He has never had a credit card (and never will!) or student loans (and never will), but he had a leased vehicle that went bad and tons of medical bills. I didn't feel as bad knowing that he had bad credit along with me.

So, happily we ignored our debt together. For three years! We were making a decent living between the two of us, and we were spending it all! We had some "stuff" to show for it, but mostly we were always left wondering where it went. It makes me ashamed to admit that we were constantly behind on our bills. There was no excuse for it! Just utter immaturity on our parts. Sure, we were paying cash for everything, but our electric was about to be cut off... duh!

Anyway, about a year ago, we decided to take action. We signed up for a FPU class as a couple, finally. I had been trying to convince Havie for years, and he reluctantly decided to go with me. All it took was the first class and he was hooked. Dave's no-nonsense style is just what he needed! We were so far behind on everything that we couldn't even thing about getting to babystep 1! It took us the entire class to just get our monthly bills on time and get on a working budget.

We've been on a monthly budget ever since and it is our biggest lifesaver. Money is something we simply DON'T fight over anymore. We both know where our money is going before the month even starts. We've also accomplished baby step #1- $1,000 in Savings for an Emergency Fund, and I'm proud to tell you that we still haven't had to touch it even with Havie not working! We were starting our Debt Snowball (babystep #2) this summer when everything got turned upside down.

We are REALLY looking forward to tackling our debt when Havie gets back to work soon. To get ourselves back in gear, we are reading Total Money Makeover. I would recommend it to anyone- whether you are in a good financial state or not. It is full of hope and inspiration and real life stories of people who have found financial peace.

We already are one of those couples who have found financial peace eventhough we have a way to go. We are changing our family tree. It is amazing! All it takes is living like no one else so later we can LIVE like no one else! Normal is broke- we wanna be wierd!

***** You could have your very own FPU kit! Just comment below to be entered into the giveaway!***** (Ends Friday, August 14, 2009)

Thankful Thursday

* For unconditional love... something I'm still wrapping my head around, but I'm starting to feel like it's everything

* For family- however dysfunctional.

* For knowing when to make amends and knowing when to swallow my pride.

* For knowing when to stand up for myself.

* For being able to make it through this time. I know you're going crazy, but I'm not. Let me remind you that it's going to be okay.

* For motivation- moving towards action. It's not about the outward appearance, even if it seems that way. It's about the freedom of health and feeling well.

* For friends with open hearts and minds who counsel, encourage, and kick me in the butt when I need it. You're amazing and I am blessed!

* For taking a little mental break this week to slow down a bit and recharge.

* For ladies with such positive attitudes that you just can't help joining in! I'm a bit more on the melancholy side, so it's a welcome change!

* For understanding myself more and more each day.

* For our future plans- they are so real and we have worked so hard to get here. We are going to make it! We're living like no one else today so later we can LIVE like no one else.

* For blog readers who don't leave comments... LOL, yes I'm thankful for you- Gives me a goal and makes me strive to be a better writer.

* Por mi vida loca... gracias

Winning Wednesday- Today's the Day

** WARNING **
This blog contains pictures that are incredibly embarrassing and potentially disgusting. Proceed with caution.

Ugh...

Today's Weight: 317.6 lbs.
Measurements: TBD (Couldn't find my little measuring tape)
BMI: 51.3 (Obese)

This time last year I had lost over 20 pounds with WW, Wii Fit and swimming all summer. I was feeling amazing! Then the school year started, my stress level went to an all time high, and I threw it all to the wayside. In January, I was proud that I had only gained back 5 pounds and was determined to turn it around again. We joined a gym, restarted our diet, and were doing great until school kicked back into stress mode for me. (Are you sensing a pattern?)

My first goals are:

1. Lose 20 lbs. to get under 300

2. Find a better way to deal with stress


I am going to start WW again this weekend. I just need the structure to keep me on track. I have joined a WW support group on Facebook- Chunky Monkeys NO More! It's made up of some girls from back home and they have already been very inspiring and positive.

I also have a workout buddy lined up! Thank you Michelle! I am really looking forward to being active again. I really do have more energy and feel better when I'm exercising.

I am so excited!